Tim Gallwey<\/a>, who wrote The Inner Game<\/a> books, once hosted a corporate tennis tournament for a client. But he introduced a radical twist to the knockout contest – theloser<\/strong>of each match proceeded to the next round. This really messed with convention, and forced everyone to question what really mattered about the game. Gallwey’s disruption challenged everyone to think of the real purpose of the competition: learning rather than winning.<\/p>\n
One of the things we often learn from our action storming<\/a> process for difficult conversations is that trying to win the argument usually makes things worse. We get seduced into point scoring which escalates the conflict. Funnily enough, when we try less hard to win, we’re far more likely to make breakthroughs that get past the fight.<\/p>\n
Photo by\u00a0Raj Eiamworakul<\/a>\u00a0on\u00a0Unsplash<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"